When I got home

Thats so right - give him a helpful boot when he decides to go!

Just tell him that them as don't work don't eat and then offer to help him pack Golly.

changing the locks is always a good indicator that the welcome has been outstayed......

i must admit he is very keen to move out but can not afford to right now ,it would mean a large cash input from his girlfriend too , we do fly off the handle sometimes and he does all you ask of him ,he does help in other ways too like go post things for me for the farm , let me use his car , takes us to Costco , bought us al the food we need for christmas , and a few other bits , but yes it will be nice when he leaves but strange too , if i have the time i will help him move , just not financially , i can not aford that . 

They need to learn to look after things before they move out into their own places.   When my elder two were at university and stayed at home I cooked tea, did their washing, they had a roof over their heads, food in their belly's but I would not moddle coddle them.   They had to do their own ironing, tidy their rooms, if they were not in when it was our tea time they had to fend for themselves - the exception being if they were working.   They both left home when they finished Uni move away and are now fully self sufficient, can cook, clean and look after themselves and they said it helped that I encouraged them.   They have friends who are still staying at home and do not cook, clean or wash their clothes at 28 as their mum still does it!   Scary thought.  Enourage said child to start helping around the house in preparation for moving out you will be doing him a favour 

I'd have a quiet word in his ear. I bet you anything it hadn't occurred to him to do it or he hadn't noticed. I've been training my hubby for getting in for 40 years but its amazing what he doesn't see or he was going to do it later.  However no one else is having the benefit of all my training, its still a work in progress!  Both of our children, one of each, seem to be the chief organisers and doers in their households -started their training at birth

I'd have a quiet word in his ear. I bet you anything it hadn't occurred to him to do it or he hadn't noticed. I've been training my hubby for getting in for 40 years but its amazing what he doesn't see or he was going to do it later.  However no one else is having the benefit of all my training, its still a work in progress!  Both of our children, one of each, seem to be the chief organisers and doers in their households -started their training at birth

Never do anything today that can be put off until tomorrow....or in this case..... laters.......

I'd have a quiet word in his ear. I bet you anything it hadn't occurred to him to do it or he hadn't noticed. I've been training my hubby for getting in for 40 years but its amazing what he doesn't see or he was going to do it later.  However no one else is having the benefit of all my training, its still a work in progress!  Both of our children, one of each, seem to be the chief organisers and doers in their households -started their training at birth

Never do anything today that can be put off until tomorrow....or in this case..... laters.......

 

I think that's Holly's point in the OP

Paint his bedroom pink he may be glad to move out!

My advice is to get a dishwasher.