Heartbreaking Decision

Your 'van is a valuable asset, and not just in money terms.  Can you store it at home and use it there when your mother is being looked after overnight by a residential carer?  Or as a quite place to go to get one of you out of the house for a few hours? Perhaps you could site it somewhere near within a sensible commuting distance and take turns with your wife in having a few days away alone there?

As is being said above, it will be your time away that will allow you to continue for longer as a care giver. When your mother is able to go somewhere for her holidays (a much nicer way to phrase things than "respite care") you can be more flexible with your 'van than booking built accomodation.

Sorry to hear of your situation but agree with most of what has been written. Friends of ours who had mother living with them used a local home for her when they went on holiday. Mother was unsure as were they, but she loved it so much she agreed to move into the home and now enjoys life with people of her own age to socialise with. When they visit her they have far more to talk about than when she lived with them. It has been a win-win situation all round. So....don't be too hasty to sell your caravan. Best of luck with whatever you decide.

A good and difficult point to consider.

All helpful advice. The first few months of caring are a terrific shock, and if you can stay strong as a couple it will help. I won't say that it gets easier, but you learn to cope, to adapt and seize any opportunities that come your way. I am fortunate to share caring for my elderly parents with my sibling, which in itself can raise issues, but the more trusted hands you can get on board the better. I sincerely hope that things work out for you, and for others out there having to take on similar responsibilities. What I wouldn't give for a full two weeks away.........