Today...Ugly....

Sorry again, try getting advice, the CAB maybe?

I attended a funeral a few weeks ago where the deceased had not made any provision for a funeral.The funeral was paid for by the locol authority but on the proviso that it was at a date and time of their chooseing.It was a cremation and the relatives could not have access to the ashes which were disposed of by the council.It was one of eight services at the crem that day and each one was allotted 45 minutes for anyone too say anything and have music played.

peter.

John, you do not have to accept the role of executor if you do not wish to.

Funerals can cost less than a grand.

We all have to ‘step aside’ eventually. Life continues in the meantime.

How shall we say, you have made a very good point indeed.

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I wont go on, its depressing really. BUT, if there is one thing I ask of you all, wherever you are, whatever you do, and how much you have. SPEND THE RUDDY LOT while you can, enjoy it. Dont let the law industry and other leeches get richer on your labours.

I do like that, and i can assure you that I am trying to grow old disgracefully!

TF

Our young Scottish solicitor ( we call him young because he's ten years younger than us) says everyone leaves too much money. So as long as you've left things reasonably shipshape, sorted out who might inherit your gold teeth and the contents of your fridge....what he says is probably true.

Condolences John, hope things get sorted and you can ease your mind into some peaceful thoughts.

Because the gaurdian left my fathers estate bankrupt (he laughed when he told me), I've had to refuse to be attorney. Not enough money for the funeral. I dont think this even happened in the dark ages.

Tgerfish, that's the way ;-)

Brue, even then, you might be leaving too much. spend harder.

heard on one of the money programes last year that we should estimate that we could live to roughly 80, so divide the savings with the amount of years left and to spend that amount each year.

We're spending just like the motto on a Birthday card:  

'When I retire I'm going to live on my savings............!  I don't know what I'll do after the first day!'

John - I hope you're able to sort something out.

Oh dear, what a dreadful state you find yourself in. I empathise, I won't go into detail. As a consequence we are doing as you suggest and living life and enjoying it while we can. We could leave all the money in the world to our siblings' children but, you know what?, NO. 

I do hope the future looks better for you very very soon.

Sorry for your loss. Its never easy, made worse by the chaos. 

I'm dreading the day when my mIL passes. Even though she has made a will, which she seems to change every year. She seems obsessed by it. She is on a second marriage and he as far as he is concerned estranged from his daughters.  

So it could get messy! 

She said recently she was giving each (5) of her children £3k. Until her daughter, who hasn't had a proper holiday for over 15 years, said she would go on a holiday with it. 

Families heh!