Being a grandad

Our two are 10 and 6, our son's children.  Unfortunately they live about a 45 minute drive away on the far side of the city from here, so we only get to see them every 2 or 3 weeks.

The kids lead busy lives, as do mum and dad, so we have to fit in with that.

However, our daughter, who got married in April is only a 15 minute drive away, so we are hoping to be much more involved with any children she produces.  We have already volunteered to undertake childcare as required, and her husband's parents live even closer and have also offered help, so we are all just waiting for them to get on with it!

She tells us they are saving up first as children are very expensive!  I suppose, when you consider that she will have to stop working for a bit, and that they may incur some childcare costs, this is sensible these days.

 ....She tells us they are saving up first as children are very expensive!   ...

 

Haven't you told her that you could never save up enough first? 

Agree with all posts we have two of our grandchildren liviving with at the moment whilst the sale of the new house, parents not theirs goes through will be sad when they go.

 ....She tells us they are saving up first as children are very expensive!   ...

 

Haven't you told her that you could never save up enough first? 

We don' want to discourage her, she will find out soon enough!

As the higher earner, they will face a big drop in income when she has to take some time off, so it is sensible to have a bit in reserve.

I think she is aiming for 1 years salary, so the first grandchild is some way off yet.  

Well team as we all know you never stop paying but as i always say if i cant spend it on my own family who can i spend it on

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Our daughter Amber had just started university when she met . . . . err? I shall just call him it.

Typical good for nothing layabout. when 

Amber got pregnant you can imagine our thoughts, but like the old saying goes no matter what we told her she'd have to find out about him the hard way. when we sorted out a new build apartment for her to rent, it took a week for him to move in. he didnt contribute a damn thing, he'd wait till she was asleep, take her car and her bank card and steal money from her to fund god knows what. 

We were at our wits end with worry about 

Amber and the baby, and if she'd carry on with Uni.

Anyhoo, three years down the road, she finished Uni with distinctions and is a qualified first year school teacher, we got her and Isabelle out of the apartment and into a lovely little 2 bed house close to us " it" isnt on the scene now although he does ask to see Belle when he's skint.

Amber has never stopped it seeing Belle.

She is a fantastic mother and Belle is priceless we wouldn't be without her now.

She loves to come to ours to see her Nanna and Grangrad. thru all the heartache she is our shining star.

( putting that down in print has made me quite emotional!!  ) 

We have 4 Gkids, both our boys have got one of each. The ages are from 7 -10, girls being the youngest and oldest with the boys both now 8.

Like Brue ours don't live close enough to see them on a regualr basis, 2 are now living in Malta and the other 2 live down south of england. When they were very small I worried that they wouldn't know us, seeing us so infrequent, but that is not the case nowadays. I love spending time with them but oh its nice to get back to normal once they/we have gone. Our own children grew up with infrequent visits to my parents (we lived abroad) and none to OH parents. I can't imagine what its like to have daily contact with them.

The good thing about grandchildren is that you can give them back when they become a bit too much to cope with.

The good thing about grandchildren is that you can give them back when they become a bit too much to cope with.

True, but I can’t say my only Grandchild has ever been too much to cope with.

Give it time.